Tuesday, 21 September 2010
There's always the black dots
I told her that the Minx had her first (semi) successful potty experience. Dew Drop spoke his first 2-word utterances. Doo Dah dressed himself by himself for the first time, and Nugget moved up to 'black dots' for reading (Level 18). So far, so good. Lots of 'how wonderful', 'how clever' etc.
Then I said that Doo Dah and Nugget had recommenced swimming lessons and both are putting their faces in the water (Nugget even his whole head). More 'oohs' and 'aahs'. And then, "And Nugget has started Little Athletics. He's not much of an athlete, yet".
Well, didn't I hear about how negative I am!
I don't think it is negative to admit that your child isn't displaying particular strengths in the sporting arena. His gross motor development was always behind his peers, he sees an Occupational Therapist for assistance with fine motor skills, it is no surprise to me that he wasn't the biggest star at the meet.
I was super proud of him for going. For participating. For trying his best. I truly think it is great that he had so much fun and wants to go again.
I will encourage him to improve. I will teach him what I know about running and long-jump and throwing stuff, but I don't expect him to light up the world. I could be wrong, but I just didn't get the feeling that he would be representing Australia at the Olympics any time soon. He has plenty of time to improve. I am sure that he will.
Well, I got the lecture about self-fulfilling prophecy. And encouraging our children in whatever they want to do. And maintaining a positive outlook.
I reckon everyone has gifts and talents. I think that every child deserves to discover what theirs is. I am all for encouraging and supporting. But if it isn't your thing, it isn't.
One boy in Nugget's class was also competing at the Little A's. He was a natural athlete. He beat the other kids in the 400m by at least 200m. He was a real stand out. One of the other Mum's and I marvelled at his abilities. He is a particularly handsome boy too so we marvelled at the coupling of such skill with those beautiful eyes.
This same boy is still on brown dots (Level 6) in his reading. No-one will probably ever notice that he can't spell his name because he is beautiful and athletic. Those types do okay in life, with or without academic achievement. I'm not saying that Nugget's classmate won't improve with his school work. But few people are good at everything. That is all I am saying.
So while Nugget may not be the next Herb Elliot, at least he has the black dots.
Being a good reader is a good thing.
What do you think?