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I didn't actually know any of this was bubbling under the surface until after the girl and I had met face to face and she had ignored me, averted her eyes to avoid eye contact, and disengaged from general conversation.
I noticed she was behaving strangely towards me (she is a polite, engaged young women whose company I adore), but I just thought she was "being a teenager" and having a day. Isn't she entitled to that?
I received some text messages from her mother, one before our face to face meeting (which I thought she had sent to the wrong person and ignored) and another after. After I received the second text, which addressed me by name but which made no sense to me whatsoever, I called her.
That one phonecall put the whole scenario into perspective, highlighted my innocence/ignorance and got me out of the dog house with my teenage friend. A case of mistaken identity.
I felt terrible for something I did not do.
This little case study educated me a bit to the workings of the modern teenager's brain. It is a scary place I think (I even remember that) and looks something like this:
1. Delete all adults from your Facebook page- then you can do what you like
2. When in trouble, make like moss and blend into the forest floor
3. Take life a day at a time - do potential employers really care what I did in 2011?
4. Gen X is like, so uptight!
5. You only get one chance - don't judge me or it is over between us.
Despite the fact that I had absolutely nothing to do with the incident that caused my teenage friend to learn one of life's lessons (the hard way), I still think that the trust between us has dissolved a little.
She believes that I 'dobbed her in' to her parents. Even though I assured her that I would have handled the issue differently, had I indeed been privy to it, she isn't 100% sure about me. She doesn't think I am her ally anymore. I am gutted.
So tell me, how do you mend breeches of trust with a teenager? Do you think they can cut you some slack and give you another chance (especially when you haven't done a thing 'wrong' at all)? Or do you think it will just never be the same between my friend and me?