Tuesday, 2 August 2011

You're All My Favourites

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I remember when I was pregnant with my second baby, Doo Dah, I was so worried that I just wouldn't have enough love to go around. How could I love anything as much as I loved Nugget?

And then he came along, and all of a sudden I realised I would love any child I had as much as I loved my first. They would all have my whole heart, and then some. I don't think I got that until I was a parent.

Doo Dah asked me the other night who I REALLY like best. Who is my favourite child?

I said to him that I love and like all of my children the same. "You are all my favourites" I said.

"You can't have more than one favourite" he said. "There can only be one." {looking at me with his cutest, 'pick me' kind of face}.

And I said "But that is not entirely true Doo Dah. I have four favourites. Nugget is my favourite six year old, you are my favourite four year old"

"Four and a half", he interrupted.

"Four and a half year old." I corrected. "Dew Drop is my favourite two year old boy and The Minx is my favourite two year old girl. You see? You are all my favourites".

He thought for a while, looked at me quizzically and then he said "Just like in that book Mum?". 

"The book?" I asked.

"You know the one with the bears."

"Ah. Yes. Just like the book Doo Dah".

Have you read it?


Kirsty said...

Haven't read it but sounds like a winner! Amazing how that sibling jealously thing can linger right through to adulthood.

Jen said...

Cute! Don't you love it when things like that just click?

Maxabella said...

It's a mystery how the heart just grows and grows even though it feels full.

But am I alone in admitting that on any given day, at any given moment, one or the other or the other is definitely my favourite at the time? Depends on who is doing the least amount of whining, really. I'm easy. x

Life In A Pink Fibro said...

I have it and I love it. I love the 'pick me' face. :-)

Kymmie said...

I don't know this book, but I like it already! And I wondered the same thing when I had Noah. But your love just doubles.

In your case, quadruples. xx

ZippyZippy said...

I gave that book to my 2 and 3 1/2 year old boys when my third born was born after, worried that they would be jealous about the new born babies attention and time consuming. All 3 still refer to it now, another fav is "Owl Babies"

Victoria said...

I love this post and I'm going to have to get this book. I only have one Monkey, but we've discussed having more and I'm worried about the very thing you were worried about..is there enough to go around? From reading your blog, I know you have more than enough for your kiddos and I know I will too.

Rhonda said...

I need to get that book! I often wonder when I have a second child how on earth I will be able to love that child as much as I love my first one. I do know logically that I will, but it is hard to imagine loving many small people that much!

Alice Becomes said...

No, I haven't read it but thanks for the suggestion. Amazing how much room in our hearts there is for love, isn't there? Sounds so cheesy but that's just how it is!

Gill xo

Anonymous said...

Amazing, isn't it? We're very lucky aren't we? :)

MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs) said...

We have that book! It's in our nighttime rotation...very sweet. :) :) Funny as an only child I never had that thought cross my mind...HA!

Quill and Ink Handmade said...

I do love that book. There are a few around that get me all choked up when I read them – have you read, ‘On the night you were born’? I’ve always got tears in my eyes by the end of it.

I think I'm with Maxabella on this one – I love my babes to distraction, but the favourite scale fluctuates wildly throughout the day, and is wholly dependent on good and sweet and helpful behaviour. But ask me who my favourite is, and I’d say a similar thing – they’re both my absolute favourite people in the whole wide world.

Great post, MM x

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1000 Homes of Happiness said...

I adore the book. We purchsed it just before little Bloss came along to read to the twinnies. Must say, Spunk and I have the occasional giggle at prefering one more than the other (amongst ourselves). We usually go with the one that is not complaining all the time at that given moment.

Agree, there is always so much love to go around.


Jen said...

That is so beautiful, I haven't heard of that book but think will need to go and have a look for it

Miss Pink said...

I have not read the book.
I tell my kids they're my favourite. Infront of each other. Usually only when asked. Sometimes I will say "You are my favourite right now because your brother isn't listening to me and that makes me sad" And then usually the non-listener comes over and gives me a cuddle with promises to "be good" and I then say "Awesome, now you're my favourite too" And I always tell my kids they're my best friends.
I worried too when pregnant the second time around. What a foolish worry huh? It is amazing how much your heart grows to wrap around a new life.

Erin said...

Ah that book has a part of our family culture. As a joke one of the children will say, "Who is your favourite?" I answer, "You are my favourite," and then we'll all chant together, "You are all my favourites" :)

Diminishing Lucy said...

We have three copies of that book. One for each child. It is their favourite too, despite all the grown up books they read: they still love me to read that one to them all occasionally.

We have always changed the names and genders of the baby bears to match our kids.

When Olivis first began reading she realised that the bears in the stories weren't really called Olivia, Charlie and Lexie - she was shocked and amazed!

When Charlie started school last year he slipped that book into his school bag. He told me that if he missed me he would have a quick look at the book to make him feel safe.


Erin said...


That is the sweetest story:)

Mama of 2 boys said...

I couldn't agree more with this post. I was EXACTLY the same when I was pregnant with our second, in fact I was really concerned about how I would take to another... like I was cheating on my first or something. My hubby used to laugh at me and was always certain I could make room for more children. He was right ;o)
I do the "you're my favourite 3 year old" thing too. It works a treat for now xo

Naomi Hart said...

ha! i've only grown one human to date, but she'd make a terrible only child...we shall have to work on rectifying that some time soon. it's incredible, never thought i'd love anyone more than my husband or family - but i do! in a good way of course!

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