Wednesday, 7 September 2011

The bridesmaid effect

Image from here. Not the dress in question.
Ever been to a party/wedding/event only to find that your outfit was being worn by someone else?

It hasn't happened directly to me, after all, you would have to be seriously happy in last year's fashions to dress like me. But it seems to happen a lot in our circle of friends. In fact, at my own wedding, one of our guests turned up in the same frock as my witness! It made for some funny photos.

At the weekend, whilst out and about, two friends created the bridesmaid effect with their fabulous outfit choice. Both, being stylish types, they had bought a new outfit for the event, sadly the same one. They were equally mortified to see the other swanning around in matching clothes. I made a quip about not getting the email about the 'uniform' that went down like a lead balloon. But what else can you say? It is a simple mistake.

I spent some time looking at how each of my friend's had accessorised their outfits and how, different shoes, jewels and hair styles really did a lot to create the illusion of a different dress. There is a lot to be learnt from that.

Have you ever been involved in an accidental bridesmaid moment? Tell me what it was like for you?

38 comments:

Kymmie said...

Love this! And it's all about the attitude. A friend of mine and I had on the same top, but we relished in it and exclaimed what fabulous taste we had. And you know what? Nobody noticed as we both had accessorised it so differently!

Your friends must have amazingly similar taste, hey? I think I would have enjoyed it just as much as you did looking at how they accessorised!

xx

Mum on the Run said...

I have been a bridesmaid (handmade strapless, fuschia dresses)when a guest wore an almost identical dress. She looked like an extra bridesmaid and I felt so sorry for her.
I've also been with my husband's mate's wife when she noticed a younger not-so-breastfeeding girl wearing 'her' dress to a wedding ceremony. The wife absolutely fumed and refused to wear the expensive dress to the reception to have that 'trollop' wear it too.
I thought it was hilarious.
I feel a comradery with someone who has equally crap or great taste as me.
:-)

Photographer Mum said...

I've never been in that situation before but I will have to keep my eyes open. I think it'd be quite interesting to see the different tastes with accessorising.

Alice Becomes said...

No, it's never happened to me! My friends and I have pretty different tastes so it's unlikely to happen. I do have the same top as one of my friends but I think living in a small town makes this more likely? There are only a couple of shops to choose from! I love that your joke went down like a lead balloon. Adds to the humorous side of this post, even if it didn't have the same impact IRL!

Gill x

foxinflats said...

Oh yes! It happened to me once. I was about 4 months pregnant, and wearing a kaftan-style dress from Sportsgirl. Had a lunch with very thin & glam - mag types at Longgrain...and one was wearing the exact same dress. I felt huge....

Sam-O said...

I went to wedding where there were 4 bridesmaids in their 20's and the grandmother of the brides, older sister in not only the same dress, but the same shoes...

Now, that was hilarious. The photographer kept trying to get her into the photos with the other bridesmaids!!

emma @ frog, goose and bear said...

Yep, my year twelve formal! Even more annoyingly. I had a part time job at the shop where I had purchased the dress, so the girls I worked with knew that I was wearing it to the formal and it was a small town, they would have chatted to the other girl about where she was wearing it!!!! I did look better in it though!!!! ;)
Also at my aunt's wedding years ago there was another lady in a dress with the same fabric as the bridesmaids. They all had different dresses in the same fabric. so she looked like one of the bridesmaids.

danneromero said...

oh yeah. senior prom. at another high school. my boyfriend's (at the time). i wanted to make an impression with his friends. searched for the perfect gown. i guess the girl in the limo with us thought she, also, was unique in her choice. embarrassing, for both of us....

therhythmmethod said...

I would have laughed at your joke. I've never rocked up in the same dress. My wardrobe sounds a lot like yours. Everything can be dated back to the early 00s.
I do believe in the power of the accessory, although my accessories tend to be of the small person variety: one on the arm, one on the leg, etc.

A Christy Production said...

It has indeed happened to me. At my best mate's wedding, the grooms sister showed up in my dress (yes, MY dress haha). We spent the evening avoiding eye contact and trying not to be near each other so other's wouldn't catch on. I blamed it on my husband. He chose that dress for me to wear... I wanted to wear a different one!! :)

Naomi Hart said...

we have 3 weddings over the next 3 weekends and i need a dress i can breastfeed in. Fine, i have one, i wore it earlier this year for my bro's wedding. except i was still a post preg pudge and now it's too big but i hate shopping. 'don't worry,' says my mother, 'just carry q in front of you all night.'
thanks mum.

Vanessa said...

Last year I turned up to a family function and my SIL was wearing the same dress. I actually didn't notice until she pointed it out as we are completely different shapes and heights and had layered it differently. I have been to a wedding where one girl refused to walk into the church because she had seen someone in the same dress. She went home to change. I would just laugh, perhaps it depends on who looks better in it?

Seana Smith said...
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Seana Smith said...

No, never... after all, who'd be wearing a frock bought in Glasgow approx 15 years ago??? Still my fave, that black silk dress.

Rhonda said...

my husbands step mom and the woman hosting our wedding had purchased the same dress for the occasion...both changed and no one wore the dress which was fabulous!

Shelley @ My Shoebox Life said...

If anybody turns up to my wedding wearing the same dress as me in four weeks I will be most unimpressed! ;)

Christie - Childhood 101 said...

When I was in my 20s I taught alongside another teacher who was the same age and had a very similar taste in clothes as me and we would often show up to work wearing similar (not identical fortunately) ensembles :)

Stacey said...

YES! Last Friday night I wore my beautiful Carla Zampatti dress, which cost as much as a freaking washing machine, to a black tie dinner only to have TWO other girls in the same dress. TWO. I am still MORTIFIED.

Penny said...

Yep! A friend turned up in the same dress that I had on at my 30th! Fortunately my gay wedding co-ordinator took charge of the situation and sent her home to change. Phew!

Jen R said...

Haha, Mum and I had the same dress, different colour on last Xmas lunch...Mum always says it a sign of good taste!!

Sarah Mac said...

I walked in to work once and the girl I sat next to was wearing the same skirt and an almost identical top as me.

I'd have laughed it off but she had more style than me (and better shoes) and went home to change. :)

Hayley @ HappyHouseWifey said...

Haven't had it happen at a formal event, but had it happen at work. We didn't have uniforms and could wear whatever we liked, from casual to formal. My shift-partner and I both turned up in black mary-jane shoes, a red knee-lenth skirt and a black 3/4 legth sleeve top one day. Normally woudln't have mattered cause work in a house looking after kids, but unfortunately it was a day we were at our head office for training, so everyone saw it! Oops!

In the shops (yesterday!) had it with a stranger. Heard someone calling my name, turned around and there was a lady wearing the same dress in same colour as me... she was calling ot her child who had my name! Was a bit freaky! LOL

neesay said...

No risk here although I have seen it happen a couple of times. I think I'd be stoked if someone was wearing the same outfit as me. It might indicate I had managed to strike it lucky in the fashion stakes for once ;)

Photographer Mum said...

I remember this post. I still haven't been in this situation.I think it would be funny to show up wearing the same thing as someone else!

Mrs Catch said...

Never had it happen to me, but have been with friends that have both worn the same thing. They made me stand between them all night.

Mum on the Run said...

A timely reminder to shop at non mainstream stores for that Christmas dress!
:-)

Lady Estrogen said...

Wait. Don't you call your friends ahead of time and discuss what you're going to wear? Oh crap... sorry... that was the 5th grade. Ha (I totally did that, mainly for skirts. I wouldn't wear one unless someone else did too. How lame ;)

The closest I've come is wearing the exactly shade of a colour, but that's it. Even that was funny and odd looking.

Kamika said...

Ive never been in that situation before but I would just take it as a compliment that someone is as awesome as me ;)

therhythmmethod said...

I've recently bought a little black dress for situations like these. I figure if I go with classic style, and quality make, I can rely on the accessories to dress it up or down.

Miss Pink said...

Not the EXACT same outfit but similar like jeans and the same colour and similar cut top. It erks me. I don't get mad at the other person, i'm just not into matchy matchy.
My bestie is awful for it, she turns up to lots of places dressed similar.
I tend to dress either really casually or really out there. Lol.

Veronica @ Mixed Gems said...

I haven't had the pleasure though I've had a near miss with a particular shirt. Since the other person was a casual, I just found out when she wasn't in to avoid the embarrassment. I have turned up to work before where a few of us were wearing the same colour combinations. Thats always amusing since it looks like a uniform though it's not.

Rhianna said...

There have been a couple of instances at school where mother's have also been pretty comfortable in the mass produced cheapies I at times wear. Thankfully for the most part I am so out of touch with what is fashionable that on big occasions I have nothing to worry about in the duplicate stakes

InkPaperPen said...

So things have changed since I last commented on this post. Last weekend I went to a wedding and I wore the exact same dress as another guest. We spent hours avoiding each other, it was even worse that we didn't know each other! We ran into each other in the bathroom and did the whole embarrassed "Hi" thing. I'm not sure why it is such a bad thing, shouldn't we be complimenting each other on our shared taste?

•´.¸¸.•¨¯`♥.Trish.♥´¯¨•.¸¸.´• said...

I am going to a wedding next weekend and the chances of anyone wearing a similar dress is next to zero ...most will be in their early 20's .My fashion sense is back before many were born.
I have no idea what to wear anyway.
I seen ladies in the same top as me but never a frock.

Tat @ Mum in search said...

Uh, no, it hasn't happened to me probably for the same reason it didn't happen to you... someone would have to be happy with last year's fashion or the fashion from 3 years ago. While I haven't entered any 'no buying' challenges, I just don't like shopping. Whenever I have the time for it, I can think of about a million of other things that I would rather do.

asampler said...

A few weeks ago, I walked into a cafe as a woman was walking out wearing exactly the same top. We just commented on the great taste we had, laughed it off & we went on our way. But I saw her later on & decided to walk on the other side of the road!

Alice said...

Fortunately it's never happened to me, but I've had a couple of incidences where, unintentionally, I've ended up wearing the same colour combination as one of my kids. Me and mini-me ;)

Toushka Lee said...

At the recent problogger event I was pleased to notice I was wearing a very similar blue and white striped maxi dress as the lovely Nikki of Styling you.
She obviously wore it better and accessorised it better
We laughed about it and tweeted "nice dress" to each other.
While I was pleased, she was probably horrified to be wearing the same thing as a mummy blogger. ;-)

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