Monday, 12 September 2011

A moral dilemma I heard about at lunchtime

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I had an interesting lunchtime discussion today.

You know the if-you-had-a-severely-disabled-child-requiring-24-hour-care, would you, could you apply for them to become a ward of the state?

And the if-your-partner-of-many-years, (-and-parent-of-your-children)-died, would you, could you date within the first six months of their passing?

And the if-you-got-divorced would you, could you put your children in boarding school so that you had more freedom to shag anything that walked?


Each scenario was precipitated by a real case study. There are some interesting people doing some interesting things out there IRL. I don't suppose you could really know *what* you would do in the scenarios until they were your reality.

My last moral dilemma post, caused quite a stir, I wonder if these 'based on real life' examples will rile you up as much?

So if you are feeling brave enough, tell us the circumstances that would allow you to answer 'yes' to one of the scenarios above.

15 comments:

Miss Pink said...

I think all are reasonable feelings and possibilities. As for what i'd do? I'm not sure, i'd have to be there in those situations (I hope I never am though!) but I do see them to be reasonable options.

Gillian said...

No, maybe, no.

Sam-O said...

maybe
yes
possibly, it's already on my mind as an option...

Mum on the Run said...

From my comfy couch with my loving husband and healthy child nearby I say - no, no and no.
Easy decisions right now.
I hope and pray I never have to test my responses.
:-)

Mama of 2 boys said...

Wow, thanks for posing the tough ones this evening! I guess at this point in my life, I would say a definite no to all three, but as life has often proved to me, my initial thoughts on certain situations can change. I find all three rather confronting, I am sorry for anyone who might be in these situations in real life. I imagine none of them are easy to tackle.

Kymmie said...

Gosh, I'm still thinking about your last moral dilemma (and thinking I would change my comment on it now!)

I hope that I never have to live in any of those situations, but know that for now it would be no, no, no.

Hubby and I have talked about what would happen if he died (he's older), and we both think we will never marry again. Why? Because we have children, financial stability and the love of our lives, and I don't want to mess any of that up for our children. Of course, we can have, er, 'friends'. And that would be well after six months of the other passing!

(Don't you love how we have it so sorted. Easy in theory, eh?)

Maxabella said...

I love a moral dilemma.

My answer is a definitive no on all three counts.

But then... you just never know, do you!? x

danneromero said...

no. i couldn't live comfortably knowing I didn't give it my all...

possibly. how am i to know if i would meet someone i should be with.. it's not about how many months, rather how comfortable you feel with your decision...

no way. no one would be worth a booty call causing me to board my kids.

Naturally Carol said...

No to the first..but I can understand that if I had a large disabled body to look after then it may become impossible for me to look after said body..and therefore may have to find a place that could do it for me. I don't think I could ever hand someone over to be a ward of state though..though I have heard you may have to do that in order to get care.
No 2..yes, maybe. Some people find just the right person to love again..and after a long illness of a loved one, some people have grieved a lot while that person is still living and maybe in an emotional position to love again quickly.
No.3 Definitely not..the kids would have to come first..especially if young enough to still be in school.
What did you say about these things?

Dorothy said...

I think these are impossible to answer without being inside those particular situations.

Rhonda said...

NO
NO
NO

I hope I am never faced with these, but I really don't think I'd be able to turn my kid over to the state, however I do know that I wouldn't keep them hooked to machines to live. I've gone through that with someone and really, it's better to let them go. Although I can certainly say that seeing as how my child is healthy. Who knows what I'd do in the situation?

cityhippyfarmgirl said...

No, No and No... saying that I'm not in any of those situations (thankfully).

I wonder with all those boarding school stories of Enid Blyton's whether there was just a whole lot of parental hanky panky going on behind the scenes... probably not.

Mammamusing said...

No no and no for me and I pray my answer is never tested.

Very tough situations to face.

Sarah said...

I'm definitely on no for the third one, but for the first two I have no idea. It's so easy to be black and white but I suspect unless you're in those circumstances it would be hard to say. For those in those circumstances my heart aches for them is all I can say.

Erin said...

Well I've heard enough and read enough stories in my life to see how nos 1 and 2 could be. As for no 3 so against my personality couldn't begin to imagine it! Having said that perhaps boarding school would give a child more stability if parent was in that lifestyle.

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