Tuesday, 28 February 2012

So I met this woman at the park

Image from here
The kids and I were enjoying a decent Summer's afternoon one day last week by whiling away the afternoon at one of the local parks. It was superb on all measures. Beautiful weather. Happy kids. Happy Mum.

There was a woman and her young daughter there too. They hailed from Ghana. The young girl was stunning. I couldn't help myself but comment and the woman and I got talking. She was such a warm person and we connected immediately.

She was fascinated with my twins; specifically how different they are, in both looks and personality. She said that she had a strong family history of twins and worried a bit that she might conceive twins herself if she were to try for another child.

We talked about her family. Both she and her husband are seventh children. She is one of eleven. He is one of ten.

Her grandmother had a set of twins.

She has twin brothers.

Her sister also has a set of twins.

Her auntie had a singleton, and then four sets of twins. Four! One of the twins died, so there are eight remaining children in that family. We discussed this at length. My hat goes off to this woman, both for surviving four twin pregnancies but also for living through the death of a child. Unbelievable.

Her cousin had twins (one of the twins from above I think), although sadly she and one of the babies died at birth, followed five months later by the other. Such tragedy. It is barely imaginable huh?

There is little wonder that she has stopped at one child, don't you think?

Are you a multiple Mum? Do you have a family history of multiples?

18 comments:

Maxabella said...

Apparently I do!! x

Nat - Muddy Farmwife said...

I am an only child, so twins and larger families have always fascinated me. I have four kids, but was always a bit wary of twins, as there are twins in my grandparents.
I think parents of twins or multiples do an amazing job.

Mama of 2 boys said...

I can COMPLETELY understand her apprehension to try for another baby, with such tragedy surrounding her. I honestly don't know how people have the strength to push on after such horrible experiences. I'm totally in awe of parents with multiple children. I really think it is something very special, like they've been specifically chosen because they're made of the tough stuff xo

Diminishing Lucy said...

I am sure I have made mention of this before - my Granny was a twin (fraternal B/G), & she herself went onto have twins (identical girls).

I have twin siblings (fraternal B/G) and twin cousins (fraternal B/B)

I am still amazed I never had twins. I always wanted and expected twins.

xx

Photographer Mum said...

There is only one set of fraternal G/G twins in our family that I know of and that was several generations ago. I always wanted identical twin girls when I was younger - would love to have a sister(or 2) for Miss 5 but it ain't on the cards anytime soon.
A friend of mine has 2 sets of twins - both sets fraternal and all girls. I also photographed 2 sets of identical twin boys a few years back, I was seeing double double!
Twins have always fascinated me.

Photographer Mum said...

There is only one set of fraternal G/G twins in our family that I know of and that was several generations ago. I always wanted identical twin girls when I was younger - would love to have a sister(or 2) for Miss 5 but it ain't on the cards anytime soon.
A friend of mine has 2 sets of twins - both sets fraternal and all girls. I also photographed 2 sets of identical twin boys a few years back, I was seeing double double!
Twins have always fascinated me.

Photographer Mum said...

I also used to work at a childcare centre where there were identical triplets - very confusing!!

Kelly Exeter said...

Oh my word!

No twins anywhere in my family but I went to school with twin girls and in the past year, they have both had twins!! Crazy!!

frau kreativberg said...

I have twins with 14 months, a daughter with 4years and waiting for baby 4 (this time "just one"). My grandmothers mother had twins but they died at birth, both. This was my fear for the whole pregnancy that this could happen also to me. For now I am happy that I am pregnant with just one baby. The twin-pregnancy was not too easy for me although there never were serious problems.
Greetings from Austria (and sorry for my bad english)... maria

Sarah Mac said...

My sister has twin boys - another sister lost twins early in pregnancy - my last pregnancy was a twin pregnancy but sadly one didn't make it to full term.

Jen said...

My sisters are twins. My second cousin had three sets of twins. My great-Aunt was a twin who had twins. And I have 2.5 year old twin boys. I'm too terrified to try again for fear of having another set!

MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs) said...

I met a lady a few months ago, a cashier at the grocery store who asked me about the girls. She is a triplet; her mom also had a set of twins, and one singleton.

I can't begin to imagine!!!

She laughed, and said they call the singleton "oddball". Poor kid there, too! ;)

Quill and Ink Handmade said...

In all my family tree - and it's a big one - we have NO twins. Absolutely none. Crazy huh?

Great post, MM x

Donna said...

Oh my goodness, I'd be super scared as well! The odds are pretty stacked!

My cousin's sister in law has two sets of twins (all 4 are girls) and I thought that was special until I heard this story

We have twins in my mum's family but as someone who has admired parents of multiples from afar, wondering how on earth they do it, I think I'd be pretty scared to join this gang.

Miss Pink said...

I am one of those idiots who would love to have twins.
I would!
But I think if we had twins I'd stop at that. I understand there is so so much work behind it, that my worst possible parenting day would be times by two. That's ok. I think I'd get through it. I just think it would be fascinating to watch the bond grow and evolve.
Plus you know I like babies and hate pregnancy so getting two for my bang (quite literally) would be sweet.

Mel said...

My uncles are twins (on my Dad's side) and there is a history of twins in his family, and my husband's cousins are twins as well (on his Mum's side) so we thought there was a small possiblity that we could have had twins, but alas, we have 2x singletons 14mths apart instead. ;)

Kymmie said...

That is some serious twin pedigree!

My dad is a twin (has a sister), my sister was a twin. And I didn't have any twins.

But every time we were pregnant (three), we asked at the first scans, "Just ONE heartbeat?"

Because, you never know...

Stopping before it DOES happen though! xx

Sam-O said...

We have twins and multiples everywhere in our family. I have always been so apprehensive about having twins. Even my OB used to talk to me about my future multiples. I have a cousin who had 7 under 7 (twins, triplets, twins) and another with 5 under 5 (twins,triplets). Imagine. *shudder*

Two ivf pregnancies resulted in singles for me. Ahhh. Big breath out. The only problem is I have 2 more embryos in the freezer and the Workaholic wants to give them a go. I'm terrified. I just dont know how I could cope if I had multiples...

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