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I came across this book called "It's not that complicated- The Twelve Rules for Raising Happy, Self-Reliant Children" by Doug Peine. I opened the book and it was dedicated "To C, for her love and for her patience" so I borrowed it. I am a C. He dedicated it to me.
The man makes sense, though he is a little American in his approach. It is an easy to follow book and the author acknowledges the challenges of parenting, but focuses on the rewards. He gives clear examples of his rules and anecdotes for when they might be useful.
So, I give you here, the answer to your oft asked question, how do I raise happy, self-reliant children? (you will have to read the book for the full explanation and strategies):
1. Never smack your child
2. Don't expect your child to make adult decisions
3. Don't hold a grudge
4. Mean what you say
5. Don't threaten punishments you are not prepared to follow through on
6. Admit when you are wrong
7. Structure your child's life so that he learns responsibility
8. Don't belittle your child
9. Praise your child over and over
10. Don't fight with your partner in front of your child
11. Read to your child every day
12. Let your child know you love her unconditionally
Apparently it is not that complicated. It is all about consistency. But we knew that, right?
This book got me thinking and reminded me that my Mummy tantrums are not helping my parenting. On those bad days when you wonder why you thought it was a good idea to 'ruin' your life by having kids, it will do you well to think about these rules. Particularly to Rule 3 above.
What do you think of Peine's rules?