Thursday, 28 June 2012
It's a twin thing: Comparison
I must admit that I find this aspect of parenting pretty hard. I can't help myself. I compare. I may not articulate my thoughts, but I definitely think them.
The fact that the children are at different ages and stages makes it a bit easier not to make direct comparisons. For example, I honestly can't remember what level of reading Nugget was up to at this stage in his Kindy year. Like Doo Dah he cottoned on easily, but who is doing better? I wouldn't know. It is not important to me. And I am too disorganised to find old school reports or Little Athletics results to check. I am not interested enough.
But it is exceptionally hard when it comes to the twins not to compare them. Most of their early milestones were attained within days of each other. But it was hard not to notice, for example, that one wasn't yet crawling, when the other was swanning past us.
Recently I had Dew Drop's speech and language assessed. Dew Drop's communication skills are behind the Minx's. Honestly, I didn't know if she was advanced and he was fine, or he was delayed and she was fine, so I thought I would ease my mind to seek a Speech Pathologist's opinion.
Turns out he is absolutely fine. More than fine.
If I had have just looked at him (in isolation), I would have known that. If I hadn't compared him to his sister, I would have been able to see for myself that he is speaking and listening really well for a three and a half year old.
I wonder why I feel the need to compare the twins? Is it just that they have an age-matched peer operating next to them that makes comparison so easy? Or is it just me?